It’s okay to ask people to be there for us.
In those moments when the fury of the tempest leaves us tossed and tattered, we should never hesitate to call in the cavalry.
They love it. People want nothing more than the opportunity to show up for someone they care about. That’s why they became our friends in the first place. Not because we have the same shoe size, although that’s certainly a nice perk. Have you seen her fabulous red boots?
No, they’re our friends because they want us to call on them.
The human longing to be useful, to be asked, to be necessary to at least one other person in the world, runs deeper than anything. And when we rob people of the chance to hit their daily quota of usefulness, to validate their existence – if only for five minutes on the phone – we commit an act of selfishness.
But if we’re fortunate enough to have a savings account of human healing, we should never feel guilty about making a withdrawal request.