Energy is interactional currency.
If you want to lead the people around you, pay attention not only to what you do that gives you energy, but what you do that gives others energy.
I learned this lesson busking in the park.
Turns out, playing and singing music as loud as you possibly can in a public space with amazing acoustics gives people energy. It’s the coolest thing. As folks walk past, you can literally watch their faces and bodies changing. They dance and hum and smile and wave and sometimes drop a dollar in the case, and it makes you feel warm inside for having participated in the energy exchange.
Which is helpful when it’s thirty fucking degrees outside.
The point is, being a leader isn’t about how people experience you; it’s how they experience themselves when they’re around you.