1. You can talk too much.
Which means you’re not listening too much.
2. You can listen too actively.
Which comes off as annoying and fake.
3. You can ask too many questions.
Which turns you into an interrogator.
4. You can be around too much.
Which might give someone the impression that you’re spying on her.
5. You can violate someone’s boundaries.
Which makes them feel uncomfortable and unsafe.
6. You can use someone’s name too often.
Which appears unnecessary, forced and inauthentic.
7. You can check up on people too much.
Which demonstrates a lack of trust and unwillingness to relieve ownership.
8. You can share too much personal information.
Which is just plain awkward!
9. You can communicate too many different messages.
Which results in a confused mind, which never buys.
10. You can send out a mass email to everyone in your address books.
Which comes off as impersonal, lazy and makes (some) people feel small.
11. You can listen too much.
Which can emotionally drain you, which can rob you of the energy to reciprocate.
12. You can be too empathetic.
Which will unnecessarily internalize someone else’s pain.
13. You can email too often.
Which makes people wonder if you’re either really bored or stalking them.
14. You can have THEE answer for everything.
Which makes you seem like a know-it-all, which makes people feel like they ‘just can’t win’ or get anything past you.
15. You can always share your opinion about everything.
Which makes people question your insecurity.
16. You can be too quick to prove people wrong.
Which means you probably weren’t listening; but rather waiting to talk.
17. You can say certain words too much.
Which diminishes their value over time.
18. You can offer too many compliments.
Which comes off as trying too hard to connect, ass kissing and inauthentic.
19. You can try too hard to build a connection with someone you’ve just me.
Which comes off as rapport seeking instead of rapport attracting.
20. You can be too clever.
Which seems like you’re ‘always on,’ and is overly motivated by self-interest.
21. You can give your opinion, even when nobody asks for it.
Which can be annoying if that opinion makes no difference in the situation.
22. You can try to hard to make an impression on someone.
Which usually leaves you flustered because you’re focused on outcomes, not conversations.
23. You can never take no for an answer.
Which is not only aggravating, but can show that you don’t respect someone’s choices.
24. You can agree to easily.
Which means people won’t know whether or not they’re on the right track with you, which will make you a less trustworthy person.
25. You can be too prepared, too organized and too ready to engage.
Which means you’re unrelaxed, over determined and too agenda-focused; which ultimately blocks listening.
26. You can give out information too soon.
Which seems forced and isn’t as effective as organically easing into explaining to someone ‘what you do.’
27. You can talk to fast.
Which doesn’t allow space to be created in the conversation, which makes it hard for others to chime in, which is really, really frustrating.
