The best practice is to ask yourself questions like this:
1. If I were me, what would I do in this situation?
2. What am I holding that’s blocking my own sun?
3. Am I being the ME I always wanted to become?
4. What can I do to make this agree with my vision?
5. What would be SO typical of me in this situation?
6. Where are each of my values being expressed here?
7. Am I currently speaking from a place of personal truth?
8. Is this helping me become the highest version of myself?
9. What would the earlier version of me do in this situation?
10. Am I currently acting in harmony with the way I see myself?
11. What is the extension of my being, and am I exerting it here?
12. Is this in alignment with the best working model of my identity?
13. Will this choice bring me closer to my highest vision for myself?
14. What would it cost you NOT to stand up for your boundaries here?
15. Am I behaving in a manner that is consistent with my self-concept?
16. Am I giving people the tools they need to build the world I envision?
17. How would the person I’m tyring to become do what I’m about to do?
18. Is the message I’m currently preaching the dominant reality of my life?
19. What could I do differently to better align my responses with my values?
20. What would it mean to be true to your beliefs and principles in this situation?
21. On a scale from 1-10, how much of my energy and passion am I giving to this right now?’
22. What behaviors are preventing me from making progress towards becoming the best version of myself?
23. How could I leverage my frustration in this situation as motivation to grow into more of the person I’ve always wanted to be?
I challenge you to post a few of these questions (or questions of your own!) on sticky notes. Keep them in your office, bathroom and car as reminders to become more approachable by bringing more of yourself to the situation.
REMEMBER: If you want to remain purposeful in all domains, create a working model of your own identity.
